Life, Liberty & The Pursuit of Fabulous

Would you rather have less work to do, or more work you actually enjoy doing?

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I like to work.  I love writing, I love talking with people and I would love to do that more than anything else. I actually started Pursuit of Fabulous to document my life from hating what I do to loving what I do. I’m on a mission to get to a fabulous life. My fabulous life. I had a list of things that I wanted to accomplish when I set out with this blog. First was to get a writing gig. Not necessarily paid but to begin writing somewhere. I have that (will post link soon) and now I’m working towards other goals.

I began to help a friend this time last year and now that we no longer work with each other I have begun to work with other people in the same capacity and that is how I started my own business, Smith Media Consulting. With all of the work that I do for others (with my job and my own business) I absolutely love what I do because right now my business hasn’t begun with the profits I would like from it but I won’t stop what I’m doing.

I went on that long tangent to say that I absolutely need more work to do that I love doing so I can stop doing everything that I don’t like to do.

If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake?
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I think that we afraid to make mistakes because it shows that we don’t have it all together all the time. I myself have become more conscious of my desire to not make mistakes. Sometimes I sit back and think I’m only 23, I’m entitled to a few more big mistakes so that when it’s all said and done I can truly say that I have lived.

Mistakes show growth and many people think that they have done all the growing that they can. I myself know that I have to grow more because if i’m stuck as my 23 year old self for the rest of my life then I haven’t lived up to my full potential.

I’ve been asked to participate in a 1 question a week challenge by April. Here is a link to the questions: http://www.marcandangel.com/2009/07/13/50-questions-that-will-free-your-mind/.

So uh… Here it goes.

Week 1:

How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?

At heart, I feel my age. 23 years young. I have the desire to go out and do all the things I dreamed of doing at 23. Writing, being a socialite and just loving life. The only thing interfering with that is the fact that I don’t like to go out to a lot of events alone (I do live in Memphis guys) and that I work not 1 but two jobs AND I also have started my own business so on days that I get tired from things that I feel 35+ with kids because all I want is for everyone to go to sleep and not bother me so that I can have “me time”.

So23 and 35 depending on the day. lol

I keep finding myself singing this song. Probably because my cousin played it for me and then I begged him to get his band to learn it.

Here is the original:

And the Leela James cover:
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For my birthday my parentals gave me the money to purchase my business license. I initially asked for one of two things a ring from my old job (Zales). I had it picked out and all but I decided it would be something that I would buy myself so the business license was it. My stepdad gave me the money and on Thursday I went and took the dive and got my license.

I’m so excited about it because the second I bought it I saw so many possibilities. I’m already considering purchasing another one because I have another venture that I want to launch. I have been so inspired lately from talking to and listening to people that I just want to dive in and work all the kinks of my life out and take everything on full speed.

God is Good. I can’t say that enough.

Anyhoo, I will be linking site information as well as the new blog information (for my business) as well as working on a big project soon. I promise not to turn this into my business blog. I HAVE to keep it personal. It is my pursuit of fabulous so I have to let you all know how that’s going.

I’ve been in talks with a few editors. (I think a story got picked up but I don’t subscribe so I don’t know) I’m hoping to find out a little bit more information out soon so I can cross byline off next. It’s been a while since I’ve had a byline and been included in a masthead. I NEED to get back to that.

In case you didn’t know, I just celebrated my 23rd birthday. It was all glitz and glamour and I got everything I wanted (well except one thing but that was due to circumstance… make up soon).

Anyhoo,this year I have tried to be a lot less secretive about my intentions. You know putting all my wants and desires into the universe. When I put them out and actually work toward them (much like with vision boards) my goals become realities.

This year I wanted to put 23 wants into this Universe and then I decided that was greed. So I made a short list of things that I know I want (and will accomplish… God willing).

1. Move out of Memphis
2. Spend a month living away from the place(s) that I (have) call(ed) home.
3. Go back to school. Even as a non degree seeking student.
4. Get my own office.
5. Start a television show. (Write out the pilot and develop it beyond that episode)
6. Quit my job and make a living solely off journalism. Even if that means working for another company.
7. Finish my book.
8. Get a byline in a printed publication.
9. Pay off 30% of my debt. That includes my upfront debt that is behind and currently in or facing collections (I’m being honest here guys)
10. Visit four new states.
11. (Legally) Get an iMac. (Notice I didn’t say purchase lol)
12. Finally get an Ipod touch (Okay this is becoming materialistic… let me get back to the important things)
13. Find and work with a youngin in a mentoring program.
14. Get a business license

There are possibly a few things that have been left off this list that I will be working on soon. Number 14 will definitely be a two fold thing. (More deets on that and the birthday coming soon)

Thing you know:

I have a boyfriend.

Things you don’t:
Everything else about him. (Unless, me and you talk in person)

My girl April said we have Beyonce- Jay-Z syndrome. It ’s really sad actually. We don’t talk to each other on any forms of social media. Like at all. He even asked me the other day do I still follow him on twitter. We did at first because well we did. It was new, fresh and we were trying to learn each other. Then I dunno what happened.  I think we stopped talking when I realized how annoying it can be to other people.

Now, I’m never the type to really care what others think but I am overly annoyed by a lot of PDA. Not even social media related. Like I don’t hold hands or kiss in public. I used to but I let that go. For the longest, I wasn’t able to even be in a relationship because I couldn’t be one of those people. THOSE people are annoying. Now, I’m one of those people on a different level. I may not talk TO him but I talk ABOUT him. Especially, if you’re a regular in my life.

And,I’m sitting here now wondering is that somehow worse?

I tend to leave him out of most blog posts unless it has something to do with the subject at hand, only really talk about him on twitter if someone asks about him and well facebookers aren’t in my business like that because I don’t even have a relationship status up. Yes, I’m that girl. BUT, I was that girl before I met him.

Is my lack of display to the general public my love and affection for this man weird? Is it strange that I’m not particularly interested in sharing that aspect of my life with the world? I mean being a writer I have to give some and take some. I choose to keep my personal relationships out of this because I put so much of the rest of me into what I write (whenever I write and hit publish… these things rarely happen near each other).

But where would Carrie be if she hadn’t talked about Big, Aiden and all the others? What about people like Demetria Lucas (Editor at Essence and owner of  A Belle in Brooklyn)?

I think it’s so strange yet I have a rationale for why I do it. Maybe that’s how Beyonce feels. And like her, he’s better about not talking about US than I am.

It’s my off day for the week. That really means it’s a PR/writing work day so I have started my shift. I really wish I could do this for a living. Write and place. Get a byline. Write and place more. Three bylines. Write a book.

Actually, I will do this everyday. I am speaking it into existence.

There is less than a week until my birthday. 23 is going to be a great year. I’m claiming that.

I didn’t begin 2010 with a vision board so I am going to work on that this weekend (and next). I am also writing a blog post (so far behind on that one) about turning 23.

Anyhoo, it’s Spring. It’s Friday (for a few more minutes). And, this is my favorite time of the year. (until my allergies realize it)

Time to begin my Spring cleaning and get my life on board. Times are changing and so is my life.

I have a little crush. Dunno when it started but now he’s part of my Sunday nights.

So yeah, watch How to Make It In America on HBO and listen to his music. He tells me he’s working on something new….

Oh and

*shhhhhh*

Don’t tell my boyfriend ;;)